Quenching anger can be surprisingly easy. If you realize your anger is easily provoked, or you have an angry temperament, you can help yourself learn to take responsibility for your response to anger and irritation. Taking responsibility on one's own anger brings awareness of how anger is provoked and a mind to quench anger before gets out of control.
Here are some "dos and don'ts" on quenching your anger before it becomes destructive.
Do s to help you Quench Anger:
- Involve yourself in physical exercise to help you work out irritation.
- Take time out during the day to allow yourself time to reflect on events that may have provoked your anger or cause you any negative emotions.
- Practice positive thinking to deal with conflict.
- Try to think from the other person's viewpoint.
- Commit yourself to an anger management class or participate in some relevant type of counseling.
- Show confidence in your own ability and the ability of others to develop good anger management skills.
- Model positive behaviours.
- Recognize that everyone experience anger at some time.
- Confide in others about your fears and anger.
- Share with others positive ways of handling anger.
- Walk away from stressors if you believe you may end up taking out your anger on others.
- Spend time doing the things you really like to do, such as a sport or a hobby.
- Clean the house or do an activity you've been wanting to do for the longest time.
- Change your scenery or activity to distract you from the source of your anger.
- Think about the consequences of violent acts or outbursts.
- Seek help. Talk to a doctor or a mental health trainer if you find you anger is growing in frequency.
- Keep a diary to describe your experience and your anger.
- Adopt a form of art to help you express your anger be it music, painting or sculpture.
- Blow off steam as soon as you become angry at someone.
- Bottle up your anger. It may consume you.
- Give your anger to outburst, thinking it could alleviate your feelings of fear or betrayal.
- Yell at others, for they might feel wronged and you will find it harder to discuss the problems with them.
- Display hostility or, rage to others to force them to do what you want from them.
- Belittle or offer snide remarks to others.
- Display aggression, especially in front of children.
- Harbor negative feeling towards others who hurt you or make you feel disappointed
- Dwell on negative experiences.
- Go to work sick.
- Replay angry moments in your mind.
- Believe that your anger is not natural.
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"A Poison Tree" by William Blake