There are roadblocks of life that can delay you from achieving your goals. These roadblocks may have been placed there by yourself or by others. Roadblocks can provoke anger in many ways and affect you in varying degrees depending on how prepared you are for these roadblocks, or how much control you have over the problem. Roadblocks begin in the form of fear.
Fear Creates Roadblocks of Life
There are many types of fears:
- Fear of not accomplishing what we set out to do;
- Fear of failure;
- Fear of transgressing from one stage in life to another;
- Fear of losing control of ones faculties;
- Fear of losing control over one's life and losing control of making one's own decisions;
- Fear of unemployment;
- Fear of losing a loved one....and the list could go on and on.
Fear is the biggest roadblock of life and to fulfilling the purpose you were placed here to do. Fear can also keep you from accomplishing what you set out to fulfill. Fear can make you indecisive; so you begin to think that you are losing control over your own life or things you believe you should have control over. You become insecure and your self esteem begins to waver.
The Manifestation of Fear
Many times fear is manifested in anger. Aggression is sometimes used to acquire control and power so the aggressor can manipulate decisions. This type of anger that is manifested from fear tend to create a diversion and distraction in your life from finding identity and fulfilling your purpose. You become increasingly preoccupied with what you have to do, so much that you ignore the other aspects in life that could enrich your life and give it added purpose. You unknowingly stagnate your own life and stifle your true freedom.
Anger is a signal that tells you that something is wrong and you should attend to the problems in a constructive manner. If you don't allow fear to overcome you, you can open your mind to the flexibility of life in a positive manner.
Coping with the Roadblocks of Life
You can cope with roadblock sand control your anger emotion. Your can do this in three ways: simplify, clarify, and refocus.
1. Simplifying your life.
You see life differently, not in a materialistic sense or selfish way. You will therefore avoid overworking yourself for the singular purpose of material gain.
2. Clarify your life.
You can cope with roadblocks by not allowing your anger to be released in destructive ways. Find the origins of your anger and define the reasons for your anger and your fears. Consider what your fears are. You may record your feeling of fear and read it to yourself. This pause will help you learn to forgive and delay unwanted expressions of your anger. You become more rational and others will find it easier to talk to you, settle disputes, and form agreement with you.
3. Refocus your life.
When you refocus your life you become less self-focused. Being practical and realistic allows you to learn to acknowledge and accept limitations of life, and you aim to doing the best. However, you learn to accept disappointments and bounce back with eagerness while you acquire the skills to success. Therefore, you make it more probable to succeed at the things you do.
If you try to maintain a positive attitude on life, and see the humor of things around us, you will see the roadblocks of life rather as stages in learning and development of your own emotional well-being. We learn to become stronger and every new obstacle and roadblocks of life becomes easier for us to tackle and solve.
Articles in this series:
That disturbing emotion called Anger
Is there such a thing as healthy anger
Do I have anger issues
Simple anger test
Facial displays of anger
Linking diet and antisocial behaviour
Methods and techniques of Anger Management
What is anger management
Quenching anger before it becomes destructive
Coping with the roadblocks of life
What triggers your anger bug
Teaching children anger management skills
When others are mad at you
"Stop anger, be happy"
"A Poison Tree" by William Blake